Introvert Boomer Male Reboot: Make the Impersonal, Personal
IBM* (*Introvert Boomer Male)
As a reasonably healthy and balanced IBM*, I have to consider how I managed to devolve into a fraction of the man I was 25 years ago. I recognize what I need to do to quash the decline, it’s just harder than ever to call up the drive to make crucial improvements.
You would wonder if I would have learned by now.
All of those pump up books jammed down our throats by obsessed extroverts have done practically nothing for IBMs..
Leave it to semi-frauds like Napoleon Hill to make you feel like a failure if you can’t think and grow rich. If that plan worked, we would all be in good health, affluent, and wise, since we have all read that book.
Over and over again.
Underneath all the optimistic thinking shams lies a rotten feeling that possibly you’re not good enough. Perhaps I had the self confidence to take on the challenges and tough situations of life 20 or 30 or 40 years ago, but a string of divorces and business setbacks have left me bitter and beaten like a drum.
Somehow I have lost my capability to evaluate my circumstances. Comparing your life to other individuals is a waste of energy and self-defeating. Or I look at my life now and question how I flat out ruined golden opportunities that were already in my hands.
Most people look for validation from others instead of ourselves. If someone else says that we are doing the right thing, we are excited and believe them. But how often does that happen?
In all likelihood, someone disapproves of our actions, and we take that as gospel. We forget the old adage that opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one. And most of them stink.
To know an IBM is the first step to enlightenment. Especially if you know yourself. Ideas are a dime a dozen. Walking the walk is the mission. Theory on its own will not help, especially as that light at the end of the tunnel gets more brilliant every day.
We’re IBMs* dammit. We’re not done yet. Or dead either.
Everyone suffers at times from feelings of inadequacy. Let it go. No problem. Every journey begins from your current place and time. I will share tips and techniques and strategies and rituals I use to optimize my health, wealth, and relationships.
These techniques may work for you. They may not. For whatever reason, we see our own problems as insurmountable. Mine include problems like diabetes and a bad marriage to get out of. I don’t know which is tougher.
Everyone has their own set of unique problems. Focus on answers.
Actions you can take to restore your integrity and self-esteem:
1. Let a life reboot lead you to your vision for your future.
2. Let go of the perception that you are not good enough. You have all the tools you need to succeed.
3. Have faith in yourself. Trust those around you. If you can’t trust them, change them.
4. Fear of being rejected and anxiety can paralyze good people. Get over it.
5. Comparisons to others are counter-productive. And harmful. Stop.
6. Break the cycle of self-defeat and lack of success that is causing you unnecessary pain.
7. Multitasking is out. Focus on one small improvement at a time.
8. Enjoy excellent personal relationships with women who meet your needs, and you theirs.
If you feel stuck in your life without good prospects on the line, this ebook is for you. I welcome fellow travelers on the path to recovery, refresh, and reboot.
If you happen to be an introvert, male, and born between 1946 1964, you really are one among us. Come over to http://introvertboomermale.com.